Tuesday, July 22, 2008
JUST A QUESTION: (LOVE PROBLEM) HOW CAN YOU TELL A GIRL THAT YOU WANT TO COOL-OFF WITH HER?
Hello everyone.... I know this maybe a little weird coming from me... But I promised a close friend that I would do this for him. I just wanted to ask everyone's opinion regarding my friend's problem. I hope all of you can also give your comments and suggestions on what my friend should do. I hope you will all understand why I am doing this blog entry.... Thanks...
Here is my friend's problem:
My friend has a girlfriend who he has been with for more than 7 years. And even though they have been together for such a long time, he still has doubts on her sincerity and the strength of their love for one another. The girl is supposed to leave and work in another country for a year. And my friend thinks it is better that before the girl leaves, they somehow have a cool-off period on their relationship. His reasoning for this thought is that he thinks a year is a very long time. And many things may happen during this time. He also thinks that maybe it would be better and more fair for both him and the girl, if for the time being while the girl is away and in another country. They both be free of any commitments and personal responsibilities to one another. So if by chance, one of them falls in love with someone else, then they won't be making any mistake on each other's side.
Now my questions are:
1. What do you think my friend should do? Should he tell the girl what is on his mind? If yes, how do you propose he do it? If no, please give the reason for this answer.
2. Do you think my friend is really being fair or what can you say about what he wants to do?
3. Can a person love another person without trust?
(Last question.... This is just an additional question that is really bugging me...)
Thank you very much for reading this and commenting.... I really appreciate it....
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wow... unnie I'm actually not an expert about love...too young.. wekekek
ReplyDeleteanyway i'm gonna try to answer your questions faithfully... heee
1. He should tell what's on his mind. He should confront the girl. It's the best thing to confront and talk about the problem. Bcuz we should now what both parties are thinking on their mind. If he do not tell her, he will leave the girl without knowing anything about what he was thinking. And he will make both of them guilty even more.
2. Maybe he is, maybe he is not. He is because, he's actually trying to make the girl doesn't seem pushed being in their relationship. He is not, bcuz the girl might get broken hearted, maybe he's showing that he dont trust the girl?
3. No. that's the most dangerous thing when you're in love. What we need are always trust and understand each other... without that, I dont think couple can ever bond.
Unnie, even though the answer is unsatisfying, but i'm trying my best to give what is on my mind. I hope I can help unnie and unnie's friend both.
everyone has a different love language
ReplyDeleteand one year IS a long time
if ever in his mind, he thinks he cannot commit, he's prolly right..
what you've set your mind to do [ sometimes unintentionally ] dats wad u'll end up doing.
its his choice
he shld definitely tell
dont leave his gf hanging like that...
unnie i agree with nabulique unnie He should tell what's on his mind. He should confront the girl !! ive never been in this situation =.= but i think its the right to do If he do not tell her, he will leave the girl without knowing anything about what he was thinking. And he will make both of them guilty even more.
ReplyDeleteThank you girls for the comments.... I am really saddened by my friend's situation. That's why I want to help him in a way I guess through posting up this blog entry for him....
ReplyDeleteI think the guy is scared of commitment?
ReplyDeleteFor me, 7 years is a LONG time to commit to someone (and please remember that my culture is slightly different than yours!) so for me, if the guy still doesn't know how he stand in the relationship, I swear I won't get married at all.
I mean, wouldn't the girl breaks it off if she doesn't like it in the beginning?
But like I said, I'm not in any position to tell your friend anything, but maybe the guy needs to check his thoughts first. Why bother for 7 years if you're going to let a 1-year distance determine whether you love someone or not?
Long-distance relationship may not work for everyone, but they could at least try.
Why doubt the girl's intentions? She could've left him high and dry when she realized that they're not supposed to be together, instead of sticking to it.
Love = Trust.
If you don't trust someone who you think you love, then it's just LUST.